Am I Crazy?

When clients used to come to me and ask me if I think that what they are doing is crazy, I usually ask them a question, "How do you feel?" Most of the time they will confess, "Not very well, my life feels crazy and out of control."
"Hmmm, then I would say that what you are doing, might be crazy?"

We don't need other people to tell us when we are acting crazy. We already know. The only reason we go to a professional to get their opinion is on the outside chance that they will lie to us and tell us that we aren't living as crazy as we feel.

Rather than focusing on what's fashionable, or popular, or what others are doing, pay attention to what is actually happening in your life. What is working, and what's not working? It is an easy question to ask but often a difficult one to answer. Anyone can make claims and promises. They can tell you they have the answers. But rather than buying into them, take a realistic look at your life to get clear about the real problems first.

Too often in a results oriented society, we want to get to the solution sometimes before we really have taken time to really understand the problem we are rushing to solve. Ninety percent of our habits, our beliefs, our actions come our of our nonconscious which is just like the large part of the ice berg that is hidden under water. Our nonconscious is not creative, it is instead completely dedicated to maintaining the status quo. If you are ever feeling crazy and don't feel your life is working the way you want or going in the direction you would like it to go, STOP, take a breath and really examine the patterns you are living out. Only then can you decide what to keep and what to change, what to add and what to delete.

The choices and actions that work in life are pretty universal. They get results, time after time. Dreaming big dream, setting great goals, taking great action, giving your best, showing up, following through and focusing on your dreams with laser intensity, all work. We must commit ourselves to those actions that consistently create value, and move the world forward. When something really works in your life, it doesn't just work for you, you will notice that it is working for those you love as well. But the opposite is true as well. When something isn't working in your life it is a sure bet that it is impacting others you love negatively as well.

Sometimes, in order to find what works in your life, you must go through the difficult experience of learning what doesn't work. This process makes the knowledge of what does work all the more valuable, because you've paid dearly for it. So when you know what works, make use of that value and put it into action. Success in relationships, as in everything else, is a matter of taking what works, and putting it to work.

If you are going to be crazy, be crazy for the success, peace and joy you can create in your life, if you are willing to grow and change the things that attempt to steal what is great from your life.
I am crazy about you. Sweet blessings, Dawn

Dawn Billings is the author of over 15 books and CEO and Founder of The Heart Link Network www.TheHeartLinkNetwork and www.TheHeartAllance.com Dawn is a faculty member of www.iLearningGlobal.tv where her entertaining and insightful high definition segments are translated into 5 languages around the world.
Dawn is the creator of a new parenting toy called the Capables and was selected by Oprah Magazine and The White House Project as one of the nations emerging female leaders for her socially dynamic programs for women and children. Dawn was selected as one of 15 women of achievement in GA by the YWCA in 2008. www.DawnBillings.com